[Sobeyet]

tadzio, on 17 August 2010 - 05:24 AM, said:

ive seen brumlaans ass on webcam does that count as sex

If he slid a few fingers in that's penetration right?

And where'd you go Tad?!

[Sobeyet]

What I'm curious about is what compels young people to stay in the middle of nowhere. I can see why Wrath would want to raise his kids out of the big city, and some people like a more laid back lifestyle, want a big yard, etc. But if you're young and single, why stay in a one-pony town? New York's not for everybody, but there are a lot of places between New York and a town that can't even support a movie theater.

P.S., hope no one was scared off from replying to Lilliaa's question because of my strong opinion on it. There are certain "status quo" topics that I have strong opinions on (marriage, standardized education, "common" sense) but they are entirely subjective and not the kind of things I would bite your head off for disagreeing with me.

[Guinthel]

Sobeyet, on 17 August 2010 - 10:19 PM, said:

P.S., hope no one was scared off from replying to Lilliaa's question because of my strong opinion on it. There are certain "status quo" topics that I have strong opinions on (marriage, standardized education, "common" sense) but they are entirely subjective and not the kind of things I would bite your head off for disagreeing with me.

wat.
how can you have a strong opinion on marriage?
do not get.

[liiliaa]

Sobeyet, on 17 August 2010 - 10:19 PM, said:

P.S., hope no one was scared off from replying to Lilliaa's question because of my strong opinion on it. There are certain "status quo" topics that I have strong opinions on (marriage, standardized education, "common" sense) but they are entirely subjective and not the kind of things I would bite your head off for disagreeing with me.

Sobe only if they tried to insist you believe something else. (then chomp!) I expected you to have this opinion I think you have even stated it before and that's cool for you. I was hoping to get thoughts from more of you I find it interesting to see what makes people tick.
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Perhaps I should have just asked:
Why are you single? Are you happy that way? Why or why not.
or not to leave anyone out
Why are you married? If you could do it over would you have been different when you were single?

[Sobeyet]

Guinthel, on 17 August 2010 - 10:47 PM, said:

wat.
how can you have a strong opinion on marriage?
do not get.

Say you have a scale of 1 - 10:

1 = I believe in the sanctity of marriage, that just about everyone should get married, and feel divorce should be avoided at all costs.
10 = I believe marriage is archaic and a useless piece of paper. Most people who get married are blind sheep.

4 = I want to get married and look forward to the wedding, children, and growing old together. However, I haven't found the right person yet or right now is not the best time to get married.
6 = I don't feel the need to get married, but would do it for the right person. I don't necessarily believe in the traditional definition of marriage, but find it an adequate union for two people who want to spend their life together.

I wouldn't consider any variation between 4 and 6 to be a "strong" opinion. Obviously the numbers are a bit arbitrary and you may have a different definition of what a "6" entails, but you get the general idea. I'm strongly against the idea of traditional marriage, someone who got married at 18 and had one partner their whole life probably feels strongly for traditional marriage.

[Rohanna]

I believe in marriage.
I however will probably avoid getting married unless my partner really really wanted to. Too many benefits to keeping the paper unsigned.
Tax returns, if something happens divorce isn't something you need to go through I mean I am sure there will be a battle over belongings but. I am also think weddings are a waste of time, and money so much hassle for that piece of paper that screws with your taxes.

[Karela]

It seems like many older generations don't recognize the legitimacy of love unless it is sanctified and bureaucratically documented. So, people rush marriages foolishly because they are raised to think that becoming married is an indicator of maturity, privilege of living under the same roof, and ability to raise a family. People do not suddenly enter a game with unbreakable rules. Marriage doesn't mean, especially now, that things that happened before a marriage and things that happened after would be any different. It is no longer needed as a social convention. It used to be a permanent, economic contract so people could keep track of their bloodlines by instigating monogamy. Now it is just a bad business deal with easily broken rules. It does not really seem to have a point besides spending, usually, and exorbitant amount of cash on a day and letting couples share certain privileges.

The primary reason I would want to get married is purely for better access to health insurance. Maybe a small celebration but only as an excuse to go out and look nice sans spending thousands of dollars on bullshit. I like spending money on practical things that bring me enjoyment past a day and maybe a week-long honeymoon, like computer parts and games. :3

[Rohanna]

In Canada your 'legally married' if you live together for I believe more than 3 years so you can share health insurance and have to claim each other one taxes ect.

[liiliaa]

Rohanna, on 18 August 2010 - 10:35 AM, said:

In Canada your 'legally married' if you live together for I believe more than 3 years so you can share health insurance and have to claim each other one taxes ect.

In Texas (unless they shortened it recently) it takes 7 years but then you can do the health care stuff.

To me marriage is important if you want kids. That is not to say if someone gets pregnant they should get married. That's one of the worst reasons. To many people don't think they have to work at marriage. You do, I enjoy being married to a great man but we are honest and talk regularly and work things out. But marriage is definitely not for everyone my sister has been married 4 times and engaged to someone else at least 3 more times. Some people are really better off never marrying. Also parents who think it's important to marry and try to talk their kids into it are not helping their children any.

[Guinthel]

Too young to give a flying fuck about marriage

[Sobeyet]

Guinthel, on 18 August 2010 - 01:17 PM, said:

Too young to give a flying fuck about marriage

Age doesn't really mean anything. So I can't have an opinion on euthanasia since I'm not 70 years old?

[Wrathblood]

Well, he might be too young to have bothered giving it enough thought.

Re: marriage, I think the Barenaked Ladies summed it up the best - "If there's someone you can live without, then do so."

Love doesn't always hit like a thunderbolt, sometimes it sneaks up on you. But regardless, if you've been with someone for a decently long period of time and you aren't sure if they're the right one for you or not, then the answer is clear: they're not. If they're the right person for you to marry, then you just know. I wasn't in Sobe/Google territory when I started seeing Mrs Wrath but I had been around the track enough to have some general idea of what I was looking for. When the time came to move for grad school I thought "So, would I rather marry her or break up?" and my brain immediately said "Marry her. She's the only one you've ever dated you can't live without."

I found love to be a lot like classes in Ethics. If you sit down, take a few minutes to do your best to clear your brain of the answer you're trying to talk yourself into, the "right" answer is usually surprisingly obvious.

[Sobeyet]

Wrathblood, on 18 August 2010 - 04:25 PM, said:

Well, he might be too young to have bothered giving it enough thought.

Immature? Sure. Lacking in self awareness? Probably. Young? No. There's no magic age a person has to reach where he can say "I'm old enough to have an opinion on this now." That's why the drinking age doesn't mean anything.

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my brain immediately said

I have a hard time believing the Wrath brain came to a decision that quickly. Mrs. Wrath must really be something.

[Wrathblood]

Oh, sure. I started with lists of pros and cons, thought through the details, crunched the emotional numbers, etc. Got me nowhere and accomplished nothing. Then I got a good beer (Boddingtons), sat down to watch a baseball game (Oakland vs RedSox), spent a few innings clearing my head, and within 5 minutes I knew.

Incidentally, this thread is one of the reasons why Heresiarch is so great. Such a great combination of titillation, wit, and humor. And from unexpected sources! Who knew all of this was lurking in Lillia's head? In an ideal world I'd rather do 25-mans in Cataclysm, but how could I ever leave a group like this?

[Sobeyet]

I enjoyed the Karela cameo personally, I haven't had a good sparring partner since she left. I miss threads like this: http://www.heresiarc...eyit-80-warlock

I've been using this sig for too long; someone pick a fight so I can get a new one.

I haven't decided what to do for Cataclysm yet, but even if I quit the game or leave Drenden I'll probably continue to troll these forums.

[Savros]

[/quote]So how many of you are single because you actively want to be single and how many are single because you never found someone who was a good enough fit? If u choose to be single do you see yourselves ever getting married?[/quote]

I'm single because I have not found someone whom I would be willing to commit myself to in a monogamous relationship. I enjoy dating over all right now, as it gives me a chance to get out of the house or gym and go enjoy time with someone outside my normal routine. Having a "girlfriend" is not something that I think will happen in the foreseeable future, not something I'm actively looking for either.

As for Marriage, it's not something that I believe in, maybe someone will come along and change my mind but I don't think it will happen.

Savros

[Sobeyet]

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/

Interesting article. I liked this quote in particular: “I was with a girl who seemed to be in an arms race with porn,” he says. “She had this imaginary Soviet Union she kept trying to out-fuck.”

[Wrathblood]

That's an interesting quote, because its not only entertaining, but also thought provoking.

Where was this girl when I was single? comes to mind, as does Wow, did she have a messed up childhood? or is she just a really competitive, Type-A person and this is a new avenue in which she can compete in? Also, is it presumptuous of me to effectively judge what she should enjoy sexually by assuming she's trying to fill some emotional need or heal some psychic wound rather than just accept at face value that she's enjoying herself?

[Sobeyet]

Wrathblood, on 07 February 2011 - 01:32 PM, said:

Where was this girl when I was single? comes to mind, as does Wow, did she have a messed up childhood? or is she just a really competitive, Type-A person and this is a new avenue in which she can compete in? Also, is it presumptuous of me to effectively judge what she should enjoy sexually by assuming she's trying to fill some emotional need or heal some psychic wound rather than just accept at face value that she's enjoying herself?

You were born 10 years too early, casual/deviant sex is way more acceptable now. And as much as I loathe social networking, it's made keeping track of fuck buddies a lot easier. The real losers are the people who didn't have cell phones / texting during their 20s.

At least you're young enough to have Mrs. Wrath take advantage of the progress in nutrition/exercise/cosmetics. Don't think MILFs/cougars would have been a widespread phenomena in the 80s; funny what's been considered attractive over the years. But regardless of era, crazy chicks have always been more fun in the sack. Even in the post-feminist era there are daddy/self-image issues abound, huzzah.

[Sobeyet]

Your grandpa likes rough sex, and I should date more vegetarians: http://blog.okcupid....arts-about-sex/